The main function of the prefrontal lobes is to integrate all the other brain regions that develop in a specific sequence over the years of human maturation. What is important here is that though this part of the brain is involved in all stages of development, it doesn’t start to fully develop until around age of 15 and continues until around age 21.

This time between 15 and 21 is supposed to be the most dramatic growth spurt in becoming an adult that even surpasses in scope and affect the developmental stages we go through from birth up to mid-adolescence. Everything in the developmental process points to this being the most transcendent period in our lives as we come into full maturation as an Adult.

As Pearce described it, “…Logically we could expect that on the completion and maturation of nature’s latest, largest, and highest brain at age twenty-one, we would possess capacities more dramatically different from and more powerful than anything previously experienced… In fact, the development of these new prefrontal additions should ideally result in a mind that is so remarkably different from the one we operated with before that it would present to us in full the biological possibility of transcendence.”(Emphasis added) “The Biology of Transcendence,” pg. 51

But, as the Apollo 13 mission said,  “Houston, we have a problem.”  It turns out that for most of us on this planet we didn’t make it through this  most crucial stage.  As Pearce sadly notes, “… in fact, nothing much happens at all.”

We “flatline” developmentally and pretty much stay in “Arrested Development” for the rest of our lives, unless we undertake a major “hero’s journey” to finish this stage of development. Take a look around, (including a good, honest look at yourself), and you’ll see that the majority of “Adults”, though “grown up” physically, are still operating out of unresolved childhood and adolescent traumas and their corresponding limited belief systems.  We have not put away our “childish things.”

How is it working for you being an “Adult” right now? Here’s a little “test”.

• What’s your body response to your image of yourself as an Adult? Do you  feel magnificent, pretty good, so-so, or overall, is being an Adult  not all that it was cracked up to be?

• How often have you said, or heard someone else say to you in the heat of an argument, “Why don’t you just grow up?”

• Was, or is,  Peter Pan  one of your favorite characters? Is “I’ll never grow up, I don’t want to go to school” one of your favorite mantras?

• As a man, do you often hear the adage “Boys will be boys” and really relate to that personally? Is the term “Arrested Development” secretly a badge of honor for you?

• As a woman, are you still complaining to your girlfriends about men, still looking for “Daddy” to recognize you in all the men you meet?

• Do you still throw “temper tantrums” at work or in your relationships?

• Do you take your life very personally?

• Are you rather reactive in your responses to life situations?

• Are you easily “triggered” and live a life mostly of complaints?

• Do you wish that someone or something whether that be a person, a guru,  ET’s, the government, food, drugs, or sex, would come along and take care of you,  rescue you, or recognize you?

• Spiritually, do you see yourself and others as a “child of God” and find solace in this description? Do you feel “separated” from God and consider yourself a seeker, looking for Oneness, or Enlightenment from Mother/Father God?

Any of these sound familiar? Maybe a little toooo familiar?

If you see a good chunk of yourself in this “test”, then congratulations! You’ve made the grade of “Mugglehood,” which is just my way of saying you’ve not finished your birthright of natural maturation. You’re truly in “Arrested Development” and really don’t know what it is to be an Awakened, Integrated, Actualized, Embodied Human Being – which is what we would be had we naturally matured in to what all of us are meant to be.

In Part II I will go more into these stages of development, how they have been interfered with, and the consequences of this interference. In Part III I will share some of my own journey into Adulthood and what Life is starting to look like from this perspective.

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Will the real Adult please stand up? Part I

So I found this interview with Klaus Dona on the Project Camelot website, a very meticulous investigator into ancient artifacts and the civilizations that produced them, a most amazing and fascinating display of artifacts that defy usual explanation of how they came to be.

Enjoy and may it “knock your socks off” as it did mine!

Go to this website and you can download or listen to the interview there:

Interview with Klaus Dona

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Interview with Klaus Dona

May you read them and weep! (We can always benefit from a good heart cleansing.)

Five lessons about the way we treat people

1. – First Important Lesson – Cleaning Lady

During my second month of college, our professor gave us a pop quiz. I was a conscientious student and had breezed through the questions until I read the last one:

“What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school?”

Surely this was some kind of joke. I had seen the cleaning woman several times. She was tall, dark-haired and in her 50’s, but how would I know her name?

I handed in my paper, leaving the last question blank. Just before class ended, one student asked if the last question would count toward our quiz grade.

“Absolutely, ” said the professor. “In your careers, you will meet many people. All are significant. They deserve your attention and care, even if all you do is smile and say “hello..”

I’ve never forgotten that lesson. I also learned her name was Dorothy.

2. – Second Important Lesson – Pickup in the Rain

One night, at 11:30 p.m., an older African American woman was standing on the side of an Alabama highway trying to endure a lashing rain storm. Her car had broken down and she desperately needed a ride.

Soaking wet, she decided to flag down the next car. A young white man stopped to help her, generally unheard of in those conflict-filled 1960’s. The man took her to safety, helped her get assistance and put her into a taxicab.

She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his address and thanked him. Seven days went by and a knock came on the man’s door. To his surprise, a giant console color TV was delivered to his home. A special note was attached.

It read:

“Thank you so much for assisting me on the highway the other night. The rain drenched not only my clothes, but also my spirits. Then you came along. Because of you, I was able to make it to my dying husband’s’ bedside just before he passed away… God Bless you for helping me and unselfishly serving others.”

Sincerely,
Mrs. Nat King Cole.

3. – Third Important Lesson – Always remember those who serve..

In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10-year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in front of him.

“How much is an ice cream sundae?” he asked.

“Fifty cents,” replied the waitress.

The little boy pulled his hand out of his pocket and studied the coins in it.

“Well, how much is a plain dish of ice cream?” he inquired.

By now more people were waiting for a table and the waitress was growing impatient.

“Thirty-five cents,” she brusquely replied.

The little boy again counted his coins. “I’ll have the plain ice cream,” he said.

The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on the table and walked away. The boy finished the ice cream, paid the cashier and left.. When the waitress came back, she began to cry as she wiped down the table.

There, placed neatly beside the empty dish, were two nickels and five pennies..

You see, he couldn’t have the sundae, because he had to have enough left to leave her a tip.

4. – Fourth Important Lesson. – The obstacle in Our Path

In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the king’s’ wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the king for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the stone out of the way.

Then a peasant came along carrying a load of vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the stone to the side of the road. After much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded.

After the peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note from the King indicating that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the roadway. The peasant learned what many of us never understand!

Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve our condition.

5. – Fifth Important Lesson – Giving When it Counts…

Many years ago, when I worked as a volunteer at a hospital, I got to know a little girl named Liz who was suffering from a rare & serious disease. Her only chance of recovery appeared to be a blood transfusion from her 5-year old brother, who had miraculously survived the same disease and had developed the antibodies needed to combat the illness. The doctor explained the situation to her little brother, and asked the little boy if he would be willing to give his blood to his sister.

I saw him hesitate for only a moment before taking a deep breath and saying, “Yes I’ll do it if it will save her.” As the transfusion progressed, he lay in bed next to his sister and smiled, as we all did, seeing the color returning to her cheek.

Then his face grew pale and his smile faded. He looked up at the doctor and asked with a trembling voice, “Will I start to die right away”.

Being young, the little boy had misunderstood the doctor; he thought he was going to have to give his sister all of his blood in order to save her.

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Five lessons about the way we treat people

However, in a good, healthy, and conscious relationship shifts happen as well. From my experience our unconscious is pretty heavily populated by our “Belief Baggage” (or “BB’s” from here on out). Generally speaking BB’s are all our opinions, judgments, or unresolved experiences that get attached to the main issue at hand, which is totally neutral in and of itself.

Here’s how it worked with Patricia and me. When we first talked about divvying up the household chores, it became clear that Patricia was a lot better at cleaning than I was and enjoyed doing it more than I did.  I took on other household tasks that she didn’t like to do, and I didn’t mind doing. The problem was that my “Belief Baggage” around cleanliness in the kitchen didn’t match hers, and that included not really getting how important a clean kitchen was to her.

Even after having some discussions about cleaning up after myself more (uh-oh hear comes the blind spot!), I was still operating unconsciously with a “dirty” threshold far higher than Patricia’s. In particular was the cleanliness of the kitchen floor. I tended to see the floor like I did when I lived by myself; I accepted a tolerable amount food crumbs and minor left over spills from cooking that I knew I would take care of when my “dirty” threshold was crossed. Plus, now I had the added thought that Patricia was in charge of cleaning the kitchen floor, not me.

Patricia’s sense of cleanliness is far keener than mine, so what was just food crumbs to me was garbage to her, and that was unacceptable to how she prefers to live. Had I been able to see it as garbage as well, then I know I would have cleaned up better than I did. But I wasn’t wired inside my mind that way, and then a few weeks ago we had some guests drop by:

ANTS!

Ants start showing up in the kitchen, (not all over the kitchen), but mostly on the side of the kitchen where the sink, counter, and the oven were located. Now for the two years I have been living in this house, (with one other housemate for a while, and then mostly on my own), we never had ants! Never! Why did they all of a sudden show up this year?

“Elementary my dear Watson” you could say. Everything shows up for a reason, and now I see that these ants were the final catalyst for both Patricia and me to do an upgrade of our BB’s. (It will be interesting to see if the ants disappear now that we resolved our differences.)

Now a basic premise of my Embodiment practice is about staying present in the body with Presence (the nonjudgmental Self) with whatever happens, whether that be a pleasant or unpleasant experience. Then I can safely “let the fur fly” if need be to flush out the attached BB’s and then transform them using The Body Transcendent tools that I have.

Mind you, this isn’t easy to do! It takes a lot of practice to not completely fall into the game of accusing you and defending me at all costs. You have to sustain enough Presence in the midst of it all to enable the transformational process of your BB’s to happen as they pour forth from the hidden lairs of your unconscious ready to do battle.

As the proverbial dust settled, I suddenly got an insight of how I could perceive this situation that could work for me and that was the principle of Mindfulness. I don’t have any BB’s around that, so I could readily recognize that I needed a mindfulness upgrade around keeping the kitchen cleaner as Patricia suggested.

I promptly started cleaning up the floor without rancor, muttering under my breath, or any resistance whatsoever. It was clear to me what was needed to be done and I acted impeccably. The BB’s involved were transformed and I know I will keep my word to keep the kitchen clean.

I feel this in my body as an upliftment in my mood, and a deeper resolve inside that feels very empowering. When I showed Patricia the cleaned floor she was very happy and acknowledged me with thanks. After that we had a very lively an inspiring discussion together about how we’ve helped each other grow so much since we became housemates!

“How Sweet It Is.” (That’s for you Alice!)

For all of you who are in a relationship, be that as housemates, friends, lovers, or with a spouse, consider this:

Change is inevitable, but growth is an option.

Inevitably your Belief Baggage is going to visit you.

That’s a given.

Whether you wreck havoc with them or use the opportunity to upgrade them is your choice.

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Upgrading Your “Belief Baggage”

A few weeks ago my housemate, Patricia, came home with a sprained right ankle.  From the description she gave me of what happened it sounded to me she had a possible “low end” 2nd degree sprain. (I have background as a massage therapist and taught Anatomy & Physiology for years, so I am familiar with sprains and strains.) A 2nd degree sprain usually involves some hemorrhaging and partial tearing of ligaments, a goodly amount of swelling, and total healing can take up to at least 6 months in worse case scenarios.

Patricia’s condition didn’t seem to be a full blown 2nd degree sprain, for her swelling wasn’t excessive and I didn’t notice any major discoloration starting to show up as of yet. It was warm to the touch, the skin was pinkish around the injured area, and she was in pain when she tried to walk or move the ankle, all  indicating an acute stage of injury.

From my years of experience working with people I know that all injuries have a story behind them. There really are no “accidents.” Using The Body Transcendent process I have learned how to access the underlying beliefs  that are the causes for an injury, and then help the person release their story so their psyche and the body (being one and the same thing) can fully heal.

Patricia had already received the Homo Spiritus Template and done some sessions with me so she was familiar with this process. I had her sit down and propped her ankle on my knee so I could put my hands on her ankle energetically. I started by with asking her to place her awareness into her ankle and talk to her “Basic Self” (the primal body consciousness that is very survival based), and let it know that it was safe here and to tell it she was sorry for the injury. After she did that, Patricia spontaneously took a deep breath, and her foot twitched a little, and that let me know her apology was received by the Basic Self.

Then I asked her to tell me what she was thinking about as she was walking down the stairs. Patricia told me she was still upset from the sounds of pain and distress she had heard the other week coming through the basement walls from the next door neighbors. (There is history of abuse between this couple.)

We then proceeded to unravel the story, one layer/thought at a time while I kept Patricia focusing on her body sensations to track and then release the emotional charges associated with the thoughts. The initial upset was just the “tip of the iceberg” as her story unwound itself one step at a time all the way back into her own childhood experiences of abuse.

As she continued to release the memories, her foot would twitch and move around under my hands and I watched as her energy field finally smoothed out calmed down as she reached the end of her-story around this injury.

As I removed my hands I asked her how her foot felt, and Patricia said, “It’s gone! The pain’s all gone! The tingling and numbness in my toes is gone too!”

Delighted, I asked her to move her foot around to test it further, and she moved it easily with no pain! Then she got up and started dancing around the room, and again no pain, no discomfort or weakness in her foot.

I checked her foot the next day and there was no heat to the touch, no redness, no swelling, and she was already running up and down the stairs with ease to show me that it was indeed totally healed!

It’s simply amazing what we’re all capable of doing when we have the proper tools.

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How’s This For A “Quickie”